Q: How do I know if the spiritual work I am doing is working?
A: If your spiritual work is working, overall, you will feel less stress in life. You will be more truthful with yourself and others, and if you need to confront someone to be truthful, you will feel less stress about it, less anger, and more at peace with this person and yourself.
You will feel a natural tendency to replace anger and resentment with understanding and compassion of others and the world. You will feel a natural aversion towards stressful, divisive places and situations. You will be naturally pulled toward your practice, even if it temporarily causes upheaval. Things that used to upset you do not anymore. These are some good yardsticks.