Q: How can we relax more into “beingness” rather than “doingness”?
A: People see beingness and doingness as a duality, and that is the problem. From the ego’s perspective, it’s either/or. However, doingness is contained within beingness.
To relax more into beingness, you just have to take a step back, get a wider perspective, and become both the witness and the doer of actions. Both the witness and the doer are contained within beingness. Beingness is all inclusive, not either/or or exclusive. But to think of beingness from the point of view of the ego creates a duality. In reality, there is no duality, and herein lies the error.
Practice this, contemplate this definition. Have faith that this shift within your consciousness will happen. You are responsible for the work you put into this, but not the outcome. Realizing this in and of itself will take the wind out of the sails of the ego and put you more into the state of consciousness of beingness.
Learning this is kind of like any other skill in your life. It seemed like it took forever for little me to learn to ride a bike, but now that little me knows how, he will probably never forget. Realizing beingness is kind of like that.
Also, just as one person may learn something very easily, one may learn beingness easily, or it may be very difficult for another person. It may take a long or short time. All this is karmically determined.
But if one remembers that they are responsible for the effort put in, not the outcome, and practices humbly (remember, true humility is a sign of non-attachment, just as impatience is a characteristic of ego), it will take the stress out of learning, and the state of beingness will be reached much more quickly.