Q: What is the difference between the small self and the Self with a big ‘S’?
A: If you take the small self, and take away all of its attachments, its opinions, its points of views, what you’re left with is pure witness consciousness, the highest expression of one’s self, the big Self.
Q: How do I communicate with this?
A: First, you have to acknowledge that there is a big Self, and a small self. Then, you have to admit that communication with the big Self is even possible. Most people do not know about the big Self, and those who do think they have to enter into some trance state — some meditative state — in order to communicate with it. Just the opposite is true. The big Self is always there, it’s just that we’re too busy paying attention to, and are addicted to, our day-to-day drama. Others think it’s heresy to think that we have a higher Self with which we can readily communicate. Meanwhile, they put an altar at the feet of their egos — that’s the real heresy.
To communicate with the higher Self, we first must admit that we have a higher Self, then we must put faith in the act of communicating with it. Then, we may ask for permission to speak with it. Then, we wait patiently with faith that communication will come. In my case, when I am feeling peaceful, either during the day or at night, I will ask “Are you there, Big Me?” Oftentimes, a voice will come back and say “Yes, I’m here, I’m always here”. Then I start up a conversation. And when Big Me speaks to me, I listen, just listen, the best that I can.