Q: What should I do when I feel anger rising up in me?
A: Take a step back. Witness your anger. Why is it there? Are you wrestling with reality, telling reality that something should be other than it is? This is the first step in dealing with your anger, seeing how your ego wants things rather than what really is.
Another reason why anger pops up is because it may be more acceptable for you to feel anger and dictate the way a situation should be rather than deal with the more threatening emotions that your ego is trying to cover up with anger. Are you scared? Are you embarrassed? Keep asking yourself why you feel these emotions beneath the anger.
Usually, if you do it with sincerity and persistence, they will bring you back to a core reason for this anger. Once you get to this core issue, feel the feeling of this core issue. Watch how this core issue makes your ego react. Witness this. This will dissipate the energy from this core issue and unravel the whole stack.
For small things, this may happen quickly. For larger things, it may take much longer and take much more courage and inner honesty. But once you get to this core issue, and you learn the truth of your anger, you will either be able to take more effective action if action is required, or your perspective will change, dissipating your anger, allowing you to be happier, more relaxed, and at peace.
Either way, you win with this practice.
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