Q: How does one make quick and effective decisions?
A: The best way is to look at a situation, look at what actions may be taken, and weigh the pros and cons of all of the outcomes and actions. Then be still, request an answer to your question, and it will come.
At first, this process takes time, patience and practice, but it becomes quicker and quicker over time. One also has to realize that questions rarely have yes/no answers, there is also the “it’s unclear right now,” and “now is not the right time to make a decision on this,” and “you really don’t need to make a decision at all,” and so on.
Since the ego deals in dualities, it expects a clear-cut yes or no answer, which is rarely the case. In most cases, the ego demands a yes or no answer. This is it acting out of its child persona. That’s also the reason why it seems to get stuck pondering a question; it doesn’t have enough information to make a yes or no decision, which makes it spin in circles. It is also not typical for an ego to be patient and still, that is a mark of the witness consciousness.
So as you can see, decision making is very hard for the ego. It’s best to observe the question and all of the parameters surrounding it, and then let a decision come. The right decision is usually the most obvious one (even if we don’t want to admit it).
Above all else, when asking a question, one must be patient and wait for an answer, hurrying and impatience is a mark of the ego, which cannot make good decisions. Good decisions are made for the ego, come to the ego from consciousness. The ego then tries to take ownership of the decision-making process, inflating itself, which then sets it up for more pain and disappointment in the future, when the next decision has to be made and it can’t make it again.
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